Just an FYI this is a long post!
When I got back from summer mission I was a bit overwhelmed and excited to start this self-awareness journey to dig deep into my true identity in Christ, to learn about myself and how I can grow in my relationships with God and others.
I just started googling and looking on Pinterest self-awareness questions and activities and took an entire week really focusing on myself, doing a little self-care and taking myself on dates 🙂
Below are the questions I prayerfully answered throughout the week. To start I would do my daily devotion or read my bible, pray and then answer some of the questions. After I answered them I would go back and pray about what God revealed to me, the lies I had been living and give it all back to God after that I would worship God. It was a hard week, it was a good week and I would recommend it to everyone!
First I looked into vision statements answers questions like the following
- What will your legacy be?
- What will your life look like 20, 15, 10, and 5 years from now?
- What’s your North Star? What are you working to achieve over the long term?
Then I looked into a mission statement answers the following questions:
- What do I do?
- Who do I do it for?
- How do I do it
In addition, you can create a manifesto which I did at the end and is now the picture on my desktop. Ask yourself questions such as the following:
- Dealing with disappointment and hardships.
- Dealing with failures and mistakes.
- Dealing with opportunities and risk-taking.
- Daily interaction with others (waiters, cashiers, neighbors, and so on).
- Choosing your attitude.
- Your general approach toward life.
- How you’ll treat your body.
- How you’ll spend your money.
- How you’ll spend your time.
- What do I stand for?
- What am I willing to die for?
- What are my strongest beliefs?
- How do I want to live my life?
- How do I choose to define myself?
- What changes do I need to make so that I can live my best life?
- What words do I want to live my life by?
- Here are five general guidelines for writing your manifesto:
- Make it uplifting.
- Use strong language (don’t be wishy-washy).
- It can be as short or as long as you like (but don’t make it so long that you can’t read it every day).
- Write it in the present tense.
- Keep it positive.
Here are 204 self-awareness questions and let me tell you these are not easy, I had multiple panic attacks, multiple times when I was thinking oh my gosh I am the worst person in the entire world. But don’t let the enemy feed you lies, keep your eyes on God during this time. God wants to help you grow and dig deep into your heart to root out the sin so he can fill you up with his love and you can start producing good fruit in your life. After I answered all these questions I made a list of the top 6-10 things I wanted to change in my life, the things I would give God to help me grow and weed out of my life. This is a long journey and I am nowhere close to the person I want to be but I know God is with me and transforming my mind and heart to be a better witness of him. Talk to God he is your heavenly father and let him be your friend though it all.
***This is just what I learned and how I used these questions for self-awareness and discovery, every person is different and every person should seek professional counseling, medical help, talk with trusted friends and family, mentors and disciples if you have any thoughts of harm towards yourself or others. These questions take you to the deepest darkest place of your soul and sometimes when we go there those emotions and feelings come to the surface, we stir up the muddy water. ***
- What is your idea of perfect happiness?
- What is your greatest fear?
- Which historical figure do you most identify with?
- Which living person do you most admire?
- What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
- What is the trait you most deplore in others?
- What is your greatest extravagance?
- What is your favorite journey?
- On what occasion do you lie?
- What do you dislike the most about your appearance?
- Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
- What is your greatest regret?
- What or who is the greatest love of your life?
- When and where were you happiest?
- Which talent would you most like to have?
- What is your current state of mind?
- If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
- If you could change one thing about your family, what would it be?
- What do you consider your greatest achievement?
- If you were to die and come back as a person or thing, what do you think it would be?
- What is your most treasured possession?
- Where would you like to live?
- What is your most marked characteristic?
- What is the quality you most like in a man?
- What is the quality you most like in a woman?
- What do you most value in your friends?
- Who are your heroes in real life?
- What are your favorite names?
- What is it that you most dislike?
- How would you like to die?
- What is your favorite motto?
- What do I want?
- What am I grateful for?
- What’s missing in my life?
- Do I see the whole world anew each day?
- Do I take the time to really listen to what others say?
- Do I have fun?
- How can I bring more joy into my life?
- What do I want more of in my life?
- What do I want less of in my life?
- Am I on the lookout for opportunities?
- Do I seize opportunities?
- Am I open-minded? Am I flexible?
- Am I quick to judge others?
- Do I take calculated risks?
- Do I give others sincere compliments?
- Do I appreciate what others do for me?
- Where do I want to go?
- Who do I want to meet?
- What adventures do I want to go on?
- Do I care too much about what others think of me?
- Do I take offense too easily?
- What makes me happy?
- Do I procrastinate?
- Do I stand up for myself?
- Do I hold grudges?
- Do I constantly dwell on the past?
- Do I let other people’s negativity affect me?
- Do I forgive myself?
- Do I smile often?
- Do I laugh often?
- Do I surround myself with positive, life-affirming people who want the best for me
- Am I a positive, life-affirming person?
- Am I giving enough time to nurturing/replenishing myself?
- What do I want to be remembered for at the end of my life?
- What does success mean to me?
- How can I add value to the life of others?
- How can I serve?
- What can I do better than anyone else?
- What are my top three strengths?
- Am I moving in the direction of my dreams?
- Do I tell others what I really want?
- What does my ideal day look like?
- Where do I want to be a year from now?
- What does my ideal living environment look like?
- What would I do if I had no fear?
- What would I do if money were not an object?
- What excuses am I making?
- What are you a slave to?
- Do I enjoy what I do on a daily basis?
- Am I on the right path?
- Am I kind to myself?
- Am I kind to others?
- Do I take things for granted?
- Am I doing what matters most right now?
- Is there an area in my life that needs more attention?
- Do I make the best use of my time?
- What can I do right now that would make the biggest difference in my life?
- What am I avoiding?
- What am I tolerating/putting up with?
- Do I have specific, measurable goals with clear deadlines?
- Do I keep the promises I make to myself?
- Do I keep the promises I make to others?
- For my life to be perfect, what would have to change?
- What am I most looking forward to right now?
- What activities do I perform that give me the least joy? Do they really need doing? Can I delegate or pay someone else to do them?
- How can I simplify my life?
- Do I see myself as a creative person?
- Do I allow myself to be creative?
- Can I be spontaneous?
- Am I too critical of myself?
- Am I too critical of others?
- Do I look at problems from several different angles and perspectives?
- What have I accomplished?
- What are the major sources of stress in my life?
- How can I reduce stress in my life?
- Do I know where my money is going?
- Do I have a handle on my finances?
- Do I have a financial plan for the future?
- Do I know where my time is going?
- Have I created an efficient time management system for myself?
- What are the three biggest priorities in my life?
- Who are the most important people in the world to me?
- Who loves me? Who cares for me?
- Are my living and work areas organized in a way that serves me well?
- Do I have a healthy lifestyle?
- Am I carrying any emotional baggage?
- Have I let go of the mistakes I’ve made in the past?
- Do I give myself permission to fail?
- Do I learn from my mistakes?
- Do I rebound quickly when something goes wrong?
- Do my beliefs serve me well?
- Do I need to relax the rules I’ve set for myself and for others?
- What childhood dreams have I been neglecting?
- Where have I been giving my power over to others? What do I need to do in order to regain my power?
- Who are my role models?
- Am I being authentic? Do I allow myself to be me? Am I trying to be somebody I’m not?
- What is my attitude toward myself, toward other people, toward God, toward my neighbor, and toward my job?
- Do I think and act positively?
- Am I tolerant and considerate of other people?
- Do I honestly respect the rights and opinions of others?
- Do I interrupt while others are speaking?
- Do I tell my affairs to everyone I meet?
- Do I practice the Golden Rule?
- Do I monopolize the conversation with a big “I” and a little “you”?
- Am I arrogant and impudent?
- Am I honest with myself?
- Am I persistent and progressive, without being offensive?
- Do I cultivate habits that make me strong physically, mentally and spiritually?
- Do I have confidence in my ability?
- Do I dare to think for myself?
- Do I hesitate, falter, postpone and procrastinate?
- Do I practice the little acts of courtesy in my daily associations?
- Am I envious? Am I jealous?
- My favorite way to spend the day is…
- If I could talk to my teenage self, the one thing I would say is…
- The two moments I’ll never forget in my life are… Describe them in great detail, and what makes them so unforgettable.
- Make a list of 30 things that make you smile.
- “Write about a moment experienced through your body. making breakfast, going to a party, having a fight, an experience you’ve had or you imagine for your character. Leave out thought and emotion, and let all information be conveyed through the body and senses.”
- The words I’d like to live by are…
- I couldn’t imagine living without…
- When I’m in pain — physical or emotional — the kindest thing I can do for myself is…
- Make a list of the people in your life who genuinely support you, and who you can genuinely trust. (Then make time to hang out with them.)
- What does unconditional love look like for you?
- What would you do if you loved yourself unconditionally? How can you act on these things whether you do or don’t?
- I really wish others knew this about me…
- Name what is enough for you.
- If my body could talk, it would say…
- Name a compassionate way you’ve supported a friend recently. Then write down how you can do the same for yourself.
- What do you love about life?
- What always brings tears to your eyes?
- “Write about a time when work felt real to you, necessary and satisfying. Paid or unpaid, professional or domestic, physical or mental.”
- Write about your first love — whether a person, place or thing.
- Using 10 words, describe yourself…
- What’s surprised you the most about your life or life in general?
- What can you learn from your biggest mistakes?
- I feel most energized when…
- “Write a list of questions to which you urgently need answers.”
- Make a list of everything that inspires you — from books to websites to quotes to people to paintings to stores to the stars.
- What’s one topic you need to learn more about to help you live a more fulfilling life? (Then learn about it.)
- I feel happiest in my skin when…
- Make a list of everything you’d like to say no
- Make a list of everything you’d like to say yes
- Write the words you need to hear.
- How do I respond when I don’t get what I want?
- How do I deal with negative people?
- How much self-control do I have with things that I know are bad for me, but tend to indulge in?
- How do I deal with inconvenient life situations?
- How do I respond to situations that I have no control over?
- How do I deal with negativity in my environment?
- How do I deal with challenges in my life?
- How do I respond when plans change or plans get canceled without my say so?
- How do I deal with change? New job, new house, new lifestyle, new people, new rules, new technology…do I tend to avoid it, welcome it, fear it, like it, complain about it, stress out about it, worry about it?
- How do I deal with stressful situations? Do I tend to worry a lot? What else do I do?
- How do I respond to situations that force me to get out of my comfort zone?
- How do I deal with rejection?
- How do I deal with being misperceived or misunderstood?
- How motivated am I to change my life for the better?
- How much do I follow through on what I preach and talk about?
- How do I deal with emotional pain?
- How do I respond when someone judges me, makes fun of me, or calls me names?
- How do I respond when I make a mistake or when I fail at something?
- How do I deal with other people’s mistakes and unpleasant behavior?
- How do I deal with uncertainty, the unknown or a future event that I have no control over?
- How do I deal with people who have hurt me in the past?
- How do I respond to obstacles, hardships, and “bad” things that happen in my life?
- How do I spend my free time?
- How do I respond to new ideas and new ways of thinking?
- How do I respond to someone who is different from me or whose ideas and beliefs I don’t agree with or understand?
- How do I respond to bad or inconvenient news?
- How do I deal with violence, hate, and suffering in the world?
- How do I recharge, rejuvenate, and replenish my energy?
- How much do I prioritize spending time and energy on myself and on my passions?
- How fulfilling is my everyday life?
“See you all real soon”
-Jackie